We are at 96 days and counting, people. That’s right, last week, the wedding countdown went from a three digit number to a two digit number . . . and all I can say is holy crap! It’s time to get serious.
Packages are arriving at my house left and right . . . bridesmaids gifts, shoe tags, gifts for our parents, lanterns for the decor . . . it seems that everyday something new arrives in the mail that I need to review for the wedding. Our invites just came back from the printer and the envelopes are in my car, ready to be dropped at our calligrapher, Rosann Konieczny. The guest list is Final, that’s right FINAL. I’ve read through it more times than I can even count, and though there are some people on The Fiance’s half of the list that I’ve never met, I could probably tell you their full name and at least part of their address.
The Fiance just returned from his bachelor party, and while I nurse him back to health, I plan for a major week of wedding meetings and events. My parents are coming in on Thursday, and I have my first dress fitting at L’Atelier scheduled for that evening. While there, I’m also meeting with Penny Larson to discuss my wedding jewelry, since she needs some time to potentially custom create pieces that would coordinate with some of my mom’s sparklers that I plan to wear. I’m also meeting at Paperista to discuss the ceremony program and the menu card Thursday night . . . and I’m scheduled to meet with our wedding planner to discuss the schedule of the weekend’s events on Friday. Saturday we have our first shower, which means on Sunday I need to get hard at work on thank you notes. Then I leave the following Thursday for my bachelorette party in Miami. All in all, things are moving at a rapid pace, and I’m doing everything I can to stay on top of the timeline (and loving every minute of it!).
Every wedding timeline is usually broken out by benchmarks, and we are nearing the three month point. According to most lists, we should have the rings ordered (check), the wedding favors selected (check, The Fiance and I actually spent all of last night unwrapping them . . . just what he wanted to do upon his return from Vegas), dance classes scheduled (check), gifts for each other and our wedding parties purchased (half check . . . I think he’s still searching), confirm tuxes have been ordered (fail . . . The Fiance is frantically working to get his guys to send him their tux measurements—he’s been asking for months, so if any of you gents are reading this . . .), meet with the band to discuss music selections (conference call scheduled for two weeks from today), and finalize rehearsal dinner plans and invites (in progress). Even though it seems like we are up-to-date on the timelines, it still feels like there are a million things left to do.
Instead of fretting over the the things we haven’t done (well, trying not to fret), I’m excited about the things we have completed. I’ve said all along that my plan is to stay as ahead of the game as possible, and though I’m feeling a little freaked now, I am relieved to know that many of the things that are left to last minute will be executed well before the wedding week. My dad secured an old fashioned car for us to pull away from the church in, I have all my gifts ready and wrapped for my attendants and the hosts of my upcoming showers, we have nearly every piece ordered for the Welcome bags and I am starting on the personalized notes we plan to include in those, we have water bottles with our picture on them on order for the buses, all transportation booked, and all of the bridesmaids already have their dresses in hand. Overall, despite the number outstanding elements, a lot has been accomplished, and I have so many people to thank for the progress (namely, my mom and dad), but that will be a different post all together. . .
As I work through the remaining mission critical items (for the three month timeline, at least), I keep reminding myself to cherish every moment of the planning process. It’s easy to get overwhelmed, but everything is ultimately about what happens on July 28, not how the flowers look or how many details I have on display for our guests. Sometimes it’s tough not to get caught up in the little touches, we’re human, after all, and many of us have been dreaming about our weddings for decades, but it’s important to remember to take a step back and revel in the joy of the planning.
In 97 days days, I’m sure I’ll miss all the chaos and madness—though thankfully I’ll have a husband and a beach in Bora Bora to help get me through it.
Happy planning to you! I hope your timeline is moving along nicely!